Power of Attorney

My Father in Law (who is 80 yrs old) went on dialysis a few month ago for acute kidney failure. When he was discharged from the hospital he broke his hip and ended up in rehab after his surgery. At this point his rehap is almost finished and the next step is for them to spend down till he qualifies for medicare. He lives in NYC we (my husband and I ) live in TX. The other siblings asked us to take him in and we said yes but we want to be able to use his pension and social security to pay for home health care, transportation, medicines and other things required to care for him at home. In the meantime my sister in law (An attorney in NYC) got power of attorney. She doesn't want to send us a copy of the documents we have no idea if she has medical power of attorney, financial power of attorney, durabale or non durable, power of attorney over some of his accounts but not other I think you get the point. Anyway, they emailed me yesterday (my Brother in law not my sister in law) saying that they are in the process of starting his transfer from the rehab in NYC to Texas. I gave them the name of a social worker and dialysis place I found here in El Paso, TX. I was informed they would pick the place. Additionally they said for us to research power of attorney here in TX because they feel we should have it. Personally I feel this is blowing smoke because maybe I'm wrong but in order to transfer power of attorney we need his Dad to void exsisting ones and start new. All we wanted was to know what he needs to come live here and have access to money to pay for transportation, home health aids, medications and whatever he needs for his daily care. We were told it wouldn't be an issue since he has a pension and social security. Also I'm very upset that they aren't telling me about his condition since he broke his hip. I'm told from one brother he needs a wheel chair another one says he doesn't and now they tell me they are going to pick his drs here in TX when they live in NYC. So I was asked to do my 'HOMEWORK' and find out what forms we need to get power of attorney. Am I being paranoid or does this sound a bit messy with them planning to drop him off at our home and not give us the support we said we needed. We really want to have him here but he does need care and I have 2 small children (his only grandchildren) If you could advise me on how to do my HOMEWORK regarding the power of attorney my husband and I both feel we need to know what already exists in order to do anything. Are we correct in this assumpiton? And with my sister in law being an attorney for over 25 years I can't believe she isn't somewhat aware of that fact. Also can they drop him off here without letting me have some notice? I want to care for him but this is really stressing me out everyone (except my sister in law) was saying how great it would be for us to take him and how the money will be there to pay for his basic needs now they are signing a different song when my husband asked his sister to send copies of the power of attorney because he wanted to have a conference call with his siblings to find out how they would send us the money to pay for home health aids and medicines and such.

My sister has been my mother's power of attorney for 2 1/2 years. Her and her husband have not worked in 5 years but have been going on trips, they now are able to put their daughter in college, they are no longer in foreclosure on their home and are all of a sudden living the good life. I do not know if the power of attorney had a gift provision in it or not. I am asking the court to appoint a conservator which my sister has convinced my mother to fight. I will ask for a full accounting of all of my mother's finances. My mother had a stroke and is not the same person but my sister gets doctors in to say my mother is not incompetent. If my sister did steal all the money can't she just convince my mother to tell the court she approved of it all? Do I have any chance here?

My aunt is in the nursing home, and someone else has power of attorne over her. She helped raise me when I was a teenager, my cousin got power of attorney over her without me. My aunt want to go home with me, and I want her to, what options do I have. Can I over go that power of attorney, and do mine.

My husband's 86 year old mother 'Ma Mann' is not making good decisions about her health and financial matters. My husband has a statutory durable power of attorney listing him as the agent in Texas where he and his mom reside. Prior to 3 years ago his mom lived alone in a rural farm home. She then moved to the closest city where her daughter lives and all her doctors, etc. Last week her youngest son got out of prison. He is a multiple sexual offender, multiple DWI's, theft, etc. Ma Mann moved back to her rural home and her wayward son has moved in with her. He is not treating her right and is manipulating and controlling her and she is very vulnerable to him. She thinks she is helping him to 'straighten up'. We are concerned about her safety and being bullied by her youngest son who lives with her now.Our question is - how do we implement my husband's Durable Power of Attorney in all the areas listed on the document? Do we have to have her declared incompetent? If so how do we do that? Or can we just show the document to bank, doctor's, etc and take over her overall management in her best interest? If we do the latter - can that be contested by the wayward son or her? Thanks in advance for your help.

I want to void power of attorney