Full question:
My son gets grounded for school issues and his mother (my ex wife) tells him how wrong we are and makes us look so bad for making him get good grades. She is always trying to start trouble to get him to move in with her mainly for the child support I think . How do I get her to stop assassinating my parental roll? It seems I do all the hard stuff and she makes us look so bad to the kids. We have two girls and a boy . She has the girls and i have the boy. My son has a 3.165 GPA. And the girls are having a real hard time with school. What can I do? She does nothing to make the children responsible and lets them get away with everything. She says she only teaches love. Both girls have long discipline records at school. My son has a great record and his teachers all like him . HELP. How do I get her to stop lying to the kids about me.
- Category: Divorce
- Subcategory: Child Custody
- Date:
- State: California
Answer:
The courts in California accept co-parenting agreements between divorced parents. There are workshops and other sessions whihc teach parents the need for cooperative parenting for the best interest of their children.
California's public policy (and one followed by the courts) is that both parents remain involved in their children's lives after divorce, wherever possible. Provided each parent is basically committed to remaining an active figure in their children's lives, the parents may be able to create a new, workable parenting relationship after the parents split up. This means separating the role of parenting from the past role of spouse and creating a new "business-type" relationship.
If your divorce decree contains provisions on how you and your ex-spouse are to conduct themselves when it comes to parenting, then those are orders to be followed by both parents. If one is failing to abide by those orders, the other can bring them back to court with a contempt proceeding requesting enforcement.
If the decree is silent, it may be possible to seek a modification of the orders to require certain standards of behavior when it comes to parenting the children together, or you could seek an order that both attend co-parenting counseling.
Regardles, it may be best to discuss the particular situation with a local attorney who is experienced in post-divorce related matters.
This content is for informational purposes only and is not legal advice. Legal statutes mentioned reflect the law at the time the content was written and may no longer be current. Always verify the latest version of the law before relying on it.
